Friday, February 22, 2013

Dating Violence: Power & Control Wheel


What You Need to Know About Domestic Violence (Fact Sheet)


Types of Abusive Men


“Why Does He Do That?”
Lundy Bancroft


The Types of Abusive Men
Chapter 4

“The qualities that make up an abusive man are like the ingredients in a recipe: The basics are always present, but the relative amounts vary greatly.”

“The sections below describe each style of man while he is being abusive.”


Excerpts from "Why Does He Do That?" (abuse)


Inside The Mind…
Excerpts from “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft

Ø  Definition of an Abuser: A man with recurring problems with disrespecting, controlling, insulting, or devaluing his partner-whether or not his behavior also includes more explicit verbal abuse, physical aggression, or sexual misconduct.
Ø  Abuse has very little to do with how a man feels and everything to do with how he thinks.
The core problem is a distorted sense of right and wrong and the belief that abusing or controlling is justifiable.
Ø  It is common for men to feel some guilt or discomfort about their abusive behavior, but simultaneously believe strongly the validity of his excuses and justifications.
Ø  Does he abuse me because he is mentally ill? It is his value system that is unhealthy, not his psychology. Mental illness does not cause abusiveness.
Ø  An abuser frequently tells you what you should think and tried to get you to doubt or devalue your own perceptions and beliefs.
Ø  Abusers become attached to the various privileges that they earn by operating with power and control. Utilize depersonalization and objectification to justify entitlement.
Ø  Abuse is not a product of bad relationship dynamics and you cannot make things better by changing your own behavior or attempting to manage your partner.
Ø  The abuser draws you into focusing on the turbulent would of his feelings to keep your eyes turned away from the true cause of his abusiveness, which lies in how he thinks.
Ø  He takes away your rights, especially your right to be angry with him.


Domestic Violence Book Resources


Domestic Violence Book Resource List

1)    “Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft
2)    “Getting Free” by Ginny Nicarthy
3)    “It’s my life now…starting over after an abusive relationship or domestic violence.” By: Meg Kennedy Dugan, M.A. & Roger R. Hock. PhD
4)    “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans
5)     “Living with a Passive-Aggressive Man” by Scott Wetzler
6)    “Betrayal Bond - Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships” by Patrick Carnes
7)    “The Dance of Anger - A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships” by Harriet Learner
8)    “Addictive Relationships - Reclaiming Your Boundaries” by Joy Miller
9)    “Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them - When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why” by Susan Forward
10)  “The Emotionally Abusive Relationship” by Beverly Engel
11)  “Breath, Eyes, Memory” by Edwich Danticat
12) “Not to People Like Us” (hidden abuse in upscale marriages) by Dr. Susan Weitzman

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Personalized Safety Plan


Personalized Safety Plan

Checklist
What you need to take when you leave:

Profile of a Batterer

Types:
· Explosive Temper: Abusers have limited tolerance for frustration, they get mad at anything regardless of how little or significant it is. They may begin to throw things or punch walls, etc.
· Low Self-Esteem: They may feel that they have not met their ideal goals for themselves. They may be disappointed with their job or feel inadequate.
· Blames Others: Abusers are unable to take responsibility for their behaviors and feelings. Common statements are: "You made me mad"; "You made me do that"; and "You make me happy." The message is "You control how I feel." Nothing is ever the abuser's fault and everything that happens to them is their partner's fault. Somebody is always "out to get them."
· Manipulative/Deceitful: The abuser may start off as charming or a gentleman, but then turn hurtful and violent. Everyone likes him/her and can't believe that s/he can hurt anyone.

TN Domestic Violence Programs & Shelters


Domestic Violence Program & Shelter List in Tennessee

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Tennessee Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 356-6767


Tennessee Coaltion to End Domestic & Sexual Violence
2 International Plaza Drive, Suite 425
Nashville, TN  37217
Office: (615) 386-9406
http://tncoalition.org/

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2nd Grade

Reading standards and suggestions for parents:
http://www.cgcs.org/cms/lib/DC00001581/Centricity/Domain/36/ParentGuide_ELA_2_v1r3.pdf

Thursday, February 14, 2013

More Felony Friendly Employers

All job seekers are encouraged to call first!  Please feel free to leave comments if you are aware of any other entities that hire people with felony convictions.


Employers Who May Be Willing To Hire
Individuals with Felonies
 
COMPANY PHONE ADDRESS



COMPANY
PHONE
ADDRESS
Able Body Labor
256- 0803
200 4th Avenue South, Nashville, wrong number
Adecco Employment Services
615-833-0822
519 Donelson Pike, Nashville 37214
Ahead Human Resources
615-360-7970
1227 6th Avenue North Nashville
Aladdin
615-748-3395
703 Murfreesboro Rd.
Allied Waste (formerly BFI)
244-6250
700 Murfreesboro Rd. Nashville
Aramark Uniform Services
350-6930
222 Fatherland Street, Nashville
Bind Tech Inc.
834-0404
1232 Antioch Pike, Nashville 37211
Bordeaux Long Term Care
862-7013
1414 County Hospital Rd. Nashville 37218
Burger King Restaurants

All Branches


Captain D’s Corporate
391-5461
1717 Elm Hill Pike, Nashville
Centurion Stone
256-6694
1325 6th Ave. North Nashville
Clopay (Plastics)
781-8070
455 Harding Industrial Dr. Nashville call corporate 800-282-2260
COI Food Distribution Mfg.
231-4300
2621 Eugenia Ave.  Nashville 37211
Command Labor
251-4005
426 7th Ave. South, Nashville
Crowne Plaza of Nashville
742-6030
623 Union St. Nashville.
Cumberland Labor
865-9099
121 Gallatin Pike N. Nashville
Dan’s Restaurant
256-8501
538 Lafayette St. Nashville.
DHL Worldwide Express
360-3837
1508 Elm Hill Pike Nashville 37210
Doubletree Hotel
244-8200
315 4th Ave. N Nashville 37219
Dukes Clutch and Supply
242- 4163
2912 Foster-Creighton Dr. Nashville
Enviro Test System
361-6300
1619 Elm Hill Pike Nashville
Express Personnel
391-0966
2601 Elm Hill Pike Ste C. Nashville
Family Inn of America
891-2138
3430 Percy Priest Dr. Nashville
Flesco Packaging Corporation
259-3594
1105 Visco Drive Nashville 37210
Food Staff
254-8400
1150 17th Ave S Nashville
Gaylord Entertainment
889-1000
2800 Opryland Dr. Nashville

Golden Flake Company
244-0690
2930 Kraft Dr Nashville
Goodwill Industries
742-4151
905 9th Ave N Nashville 37208
Hampton in @ Vanderbilt
329-3991
1919 W. End Ave. Nashville

Hickory Hollow Mall
410-8970
5252 Hickory Hollow Pkwy Antioch
Holiday Inn
883-9700
220 Elm Hill Pike Nashville
IHOP
885-2875
Antioch/Goodlettsville Locations
Industrial Staffing
613-0232
606 Main St. Nashville
Inka Products
350-7290
6400 Louisiana Ave Nashville 
InStaff Personnel
366-9400
2567 Murfreesboro Pike
International Diverse Food
889-8345
189 Spence Ln Nashville
Jack-In-The-Box
256-4717
581 Murfreesboro Pike Nashville
Jiffy Lube
320-7325
1710 Charlotte Ave Nashville 
John W. McDougall Co.
321-3900
3731 Amy Lynn Dr Nashville
Krystal Restaurant

All Branches
Labor Source
227-4445
102 Sunset Dr Nashville
Leggett & Platt Textiles
734-1600
400 Davidson St. Nashville
Lumberman Wholesale
321-3038

Master Staff
223-5626
613 Potomac Place Smyrna
McDonald’s Restaurants

All Branches
Michael Angelo’s Restaurant
329-2979
205 22nd Ave N. Nashville
Millennium Maxwell House Hotel
259-4343
2025 Metro Center Blvd Nashville
Music City Marketing
331-8041 x130
477-B McNally Dr. Nashville
Myers Plumbing
356-8811
6594 Hwy 100 Nashville
Nashville Arena
770-2400
501 Broadway Ave Nashville
Nashville Sounds
242-4371
534 Chesnutt St. Nashville
National Linen Service
320-5575
3101 Charlotte Ave Nashville
Noshville Delicatessen
329-6674
1918 Broadway Nashville
O’Charleys
254-1563
2960 Armory Dr Nashville
Office Depot
297-4180
4504 Harding Rd Nashville
Pancake Pantry
383-9333
1796 21st Ave S Nashville
PDQ Disposal
254-6666
625 Hamilton Ave Nashville
Personnel Mgmt., Inc.
391-4357
2828 Elm Hill Pike Nashville
Piccadilly Cafeteria
367-4640
874 Murfreesboro Rd Nashville
Red Kap Industries
391-1200
545 Marriot Dr Nashville
Red Roof Inn

All Branches
Robert Orr-Sysco Foods
350-2116
5001 Charlotte Ave Nashville
Sara Lee
297-5393/227-1646
Franklin Rd. or Gallatin Pike
Shippers Transport Co.
726-8288
6213 Charlotte Pike, Nashville
Shoney’s
255-3021
110 Interstate Dr. Nashville 37213
SMS Services
399-1839
1221 Murfreesboro Rd. Nashville
Smurfit Recycling Co
329-4855
707 19th Ave North Nashville
Spherion (Temp Agency)
885-8066
801 Royal Pkwy, Nashville
Steiner-Liff Iron Metal
271-3361
710 South 1st St Nashville
Ten Wheel and Rubber
329-1691
817 18th Ave South, Nashville
Tennessee State University
963-5281
3500 John Merritt Blvd. Nashville 37209
Trevecca Health Care
244-6900
329 Murfreesboro Rd. Nashville
Vanderbilt Temporary Services

2525 West End Ave Nashville
Waffle House Restaurants

All Branches
Will Staff
851-0192
2021 Gallatin Pike N. Nashville
COMPANY
PHONE
ADDRESS
Able Body Labor
256- 0803
200 4th Avenue South, Nashville, wrong number
Adecco Employment Services
615-833-0822
519 Donelson Pike, Nashville 37214
Ahead Human Resources
615-360-7970
1227 6th Avenue North Nashville
Aladdin
615-748-3395
703 Murfreesboro Rd.
Allied Waste (formerly BFI)
244-6250
700 Murfreesboro Rd. Nashville
Aramark Uniform Services
350-6930
222 Fatherland Street, Nashville
Bind Tech Inc.
834-0404
1232 Antioch Pike, Nashville 37211
Bordeaux Long Term Care
862-7013
1414 County Hospital Rd. Nashville 37218
Burger King Restaurants

All Branches


Captain D’s Corporate
391-5461
1717 Elm Hill Pike, Nashville
Centurion Stone
256-6694
1325 6th Ave. North Nashville
Clopay (Plastics)
781-8070
455 Harding Industrial Dr. Nashville call corporate 800-282-2260
COI Food Distribution Mfg.
231-4300
2621 Eugenia Ave.  Nashville 37211
Command Labor
251-4005
426 7th Ave. South, Nashville
Crowne Plaza of Nashville
742-6030
623 Union St. Nashville.
Cumberland Labor
865-9099
121 Gallatin Pike N. Nashville
Dan’s Restaurant
256-8501
538 Lafayette St. Nashville.
DHL Worldwide Express
360-3837
1508 Elm Hill Pike Nashville 37210
Doubletree Hotel
244-8200
315 4th Ave. N Nashville 37219
Dukes Clutch and Supply
242- 4163
2912 Foster-Creighton Dr. Nashville
Enviro Test System
361-6300
1619 Elm Hill Pike Nashville
Express Personnel
391-0966
2601 Elm Hill Pike Ste C. Nashville
Family Inn of America
891-2138
3430 Percy Priest Dr. Nashville
Flesco Packaging Corporation
259-3594
1105 Visco Drive Nashville 37210
Food Staff
254-8400
1150 17th Ave S Nashville
Gaylord Entertainment
889-1000
2800 Opryland Dr. Nashville

Golden Flake Company
244-0690
2930 Kraft Dr Nashville
Goodwill Industries
742-4151
905 9th Ave N Nashville 37208
Hampton in @ Vanderbilt
329-3991
1919 W. End Ave. Nashville

Hickory Hollow Mall
410-8970
5252 Hickory Hollow Pkwy Antioch
Holiday Inn
883-9700
220 Elm Hill Pike Nashville
IHOP
885-2875
Antioch/Goodlettsville Locations
Industrial Staffing
613-0232
606 Main St. Nashville
Inka Products
350-7290
6400 Louisiana Ave Nashville 
InStaff Personnel
366-9400
2567 Murfreesboro Pike
International Diverse Food
889-8345
189 Spence Ln Nashville
Jack-In-The-Box
256-4717
581 Murfreesboro Pike Nashville
Jiffy Lube
320-7325
1710 Charlotte Ave Nashville 
John W. McDougall Co.
321-3900
3731 Amy Lynn Dr Nashville
Krystal Restaurant

All Branches
Labor Source
227-4445
102 Sunset Dr Nashville
Leggett & Platt Textiles
734-1600
400 Davidson St. Nashville
Lumberman Wholesale
321-3038

Master Staff
223-5626
613 Potomac Place Smyrna
McDonald’s Restaurants

All Branches
Michael Angelo’s Restaurant
329-2979
205 22nd Ave N. Nashville
Millennium Maxwell House Hotel
259-4343
2025 Metro Center Blvd Nashville
Music City Marketing
331-8041 x130
477-B McNally Dr. Nashville
Myers Plumbing
356-8811
6594 Hwy 100 Nashville
Nashville Arena
770-2400
501 Broadway Ave Nashville
Nashville Sounds
242-4371
534 Chesnutt St. Nashville
National Linen Service
320-5575
3101 Charlotte Ave Nashville
Noshville Delicatessen
329-6674
1918 Broadway Nashville
O’Charleys
254-1563
2960 Armory Dr Nashville
Office Depot
297-4180
4504 Harding Rd Nashville
Pancake Pantry
383-9333
1796 21st Ave S Nashville
PDQ Disposal
254-6666
625 Hamilton Ave Nashville
Personnel Mgmt., Inc.
391-4357
2828 Elm Hill Pike Nashville
Piccadilly Cafeteria
367-4640
874 Murfreesboro Rd Nashville
Red Kap Industries
391-1200
545 Marriot Dr Nashville
Red Roof Inn

All Branches
Robert Orr-Sysco Foods
350-2116
5001 Charlotte Ave Nashville
Sara Lee
297-5393/227-1646
Franklin Rd. or Gallatin Pike
Shippers Transport Co.
726-8288
6213 Charlotte Pike, Nashville
Shoney’s
255-3021
110 Interstate Dr. Nashville 37213
SMS Services
399-1839
1221 Murfreesboro Rd. Nashville
Smurfit Recycling Co
329-4855
707 19th Ave North Nashville
Spherion (Temp Agency)
885-8066
801 Royal Pkwy, Nashville
Steiner-Liff Iron Metal
271-3361
710 South 1st St Nashville
Ten Wheel and Rubber
329-1691
817 18th Ave South, Nashville
Tennessee State University
963-5281
3500 John Merritt Blvd. Nashville 37209
Trevecca Health Care
244-6900
329 Murfreesboro Rd. Nashville
Vanderbilt Temporary Services

2525 West End Ave Nashville
Waffle House Restaurants

All Branches
Will Staff
851-0192
2021 Gallatin Pike N. Nashville