· Explosive Temper: Abusers have limited tolerance for frustration, they get mad at anything regardless of how little or significant it is. They may begin to throw things or punch walls, etc.
· Low Self-Esteem: They may feel that they have not met their ideal goals for themselves. They may be disappointed with their job or feel inadequate.
· Blames Others: Abusers are unable to take responsibility for their behaviors and feelings. Common statements are: "You made me mad"; "You made me do that"; and "You make me happy." The message is "You control how I feel." Nothing is ever the abuser's fault and everything that happens to them is their partner's fault. Somebody is always "out to get them."
· Manipulative/Deceitful: The abuser may start off as charming or a gentleman, but then turn hurtful and violent. Everyone likes him/her and can't believe that s/he can hurt anyone.
